Toy Guns
ASK VIOLET Question: When a child is in the middle of a bitter, hostile parental relationship, are you frank with the parents about how they are damaging their child? Answer: How I convey this message to the parents is very…
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First Session
ASK VIOLET “You had stated that you see the parents and child together at the first session. I have been leery to do this because, when I have, the parents’ comments were hurtful for the child to hear. I thought…
Limited Sessions
ASK VIOLET Summer/Fall 2012 Question: How do you fit this system into a managed care treatment plan—having a limited number of sessions? Answer: With a limited of sessions I would follow a brief therapy model. This is useful not only…
Involvement
ASK VIOLET How can you work with children without working with the family? Aren’t you sending them right back to an often dysfunctional situation? ANSWER: There was a time when most therapists would not work with a child unless they…
How Did You Decide to Work with Children
ASK VIOLET How did you end up working with children and how did you know, or did you, that this was your career direction? I receive many variations of this question quite often so I thought it might be time…
Grounding After
ASK VIOLET Question: How do you ground children after they have been having a really good time, or perhaps a particularly emotional time? This is very important. I feel that children must make closure since have they to go out…
Expectations
ASK VIOLET 1. What kind of expectations should we have in our work with the child? I have a slogan that I often repeat to folks that were in my training programs: EXPECTATIONS BREED FAILURE This does not mean that…
Dreams
ASK VIOLET Do you pay attention to children’s dreams in your work? What’s your theory of dreams in general? Answer: I chose this question from a large pile of questions I have because I think this is a neglected subject.…
Drawing
I used to have people send up questions written on scraps of paper when I did large workshops. I have a very fat folder full of these questions. Here are brief answers to a few of those questions. Question. When…
Energia Agresiva (es)
Preguntale a Violet Primavera 2010Favor de mandar tus preguntas a la Dra. Oaklander a: info@violet-oaklander A caso no esta usted promoviendo a los ninos la ira y la violencia cn algunas de las actividades de “energia agresiva” que usted utiliza?…