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Description of the Therapeutic Process

Note:This handout was written to be given to parents and is also useful for teachers. The following is a brief description of the therapeutic process: Establishing the therapeutic relationship Your child and I will spend time getting to know one…

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  • Violet Oaklander, PhD.
  • July 11, 2022
  • By Dr. Oaklander
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On Bedwetting

Did you know that children who wet the bed are actually trying to take care of themselves? When they were very young something was happening that made them anxious and they had no way of expressing themselves or finding some…

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  • Violet Oaklander, PhD.
  • July 11, 2022
  • By Dr. Oaklander
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Some Differences in Child and Adult Work

Work with children is in small segments. They may make one statement, as “yes, I get mad like that tiger sometimes,” and then close down. Resistance in children must be honored. When they close down it means they don’t have…

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  • Violet Oaklander, PhD.
  • July 11, 2022
  • Articles / By Dr. Oaklander
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I Don’t Fix Kids

The following is a summary of what I have told parents about the kind of work I do. Ithinkitishelpfulforteachersandtherapistsaswell. ~Violet Oaklander, PhD I usually ask parents in our first session together, “What are you wanting by coming here?” (or something…

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  • Violet Oaklander, PhD.
  • July 11, 2022
  • By Dr. Oaklander
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The Many Faces of Anger

Anger is the most misunderstood of all the human emotions. We tend to think of anger as basically distasteful and abhorrent — something that we would rather not experience. Actually, I believe that anger is an expression of the self.…

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  • Violet Oaklander, PhD.
  • July 11, 2022
  • By Dr. Oaklander
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Things to do to Express Anger Safely

Hint: One should feel better, calmer, and more peaceful after expressing anger in one or more of these ways. Sometimes the body feels very tired. Breathing deeply while doing any of these things is recommended. Focus is important. Punch a…

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  • Violet Oaklander, PhD.
  • July 10, 2022
  • By Dr. Oaklander
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Expectations (es)

Pregúntale a Violet 1. Que clase de expectación podemos tener en nuestro trabajo con el niño? Yo tengo un dicho que repito frecuentemente a las personas que atienden misProgramas de entrenamiento: Las Expectativas Crean Fracaso Esto no quiere decir que…

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  • Violet Oaklander, PhD.
  • July 17, 2021
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Dreams (es)

Preguntale a VIOLET Edicion de Primavera 2011 ¿Pregunta? Le presta atencion a los sueños de los niños en su trabajo? ¿ Cual es su teoría de los sueños en general? Escogí esta pregunta de una grande lista de preguntas que…

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  • Violet Oaklander, PhD.
  • July 17, 2021
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