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2023 VSOF Conference Open for Registration

2023 VSOF CONFERENCE NOW OPEN FOR REGISTRATION February 6, 2023 — The Violet Solomon Oaklander Foundation (VSOF) is pleased to announce its next International Conference June 2-4, 2023.

February 6, 2023

Toy Guns

ASK VIOLET Question: When a child is in the middle of a bitter, hostile parental relationship, are you frank with the parents about how they are damaging their child? Answer: How I convey this message to the parents is very important. I don’t want to attack the parents since they definitely will not return. I […]

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November 17, 2022

First Session

ASK VIOLET “You had stated that you see the parents and child together at the first session. I have been leery to do this because, when I have, the parents’ comments were hurtful for the child to hear. I thought that it was more harmful to the child than helpful. Please comment.” Answer: On the […]

A Family Sitting on the Couch Seeing a Counselor


Limited Sessions

ASK VIOLET Summer/Fall 2012 Question: How do you fit this system into a managed care treatment plan—having a limited number of sessions? Answer: With a limited of sessions I would follow a brief therapy model. This is useful not only for managed care clients, but also for other short term requirements. Some suggestions: See the […]

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November 14, 2022


ASK VIOLET How can you work with children without working with the family? Aren’t you sending them right back to an often dysfunctional situation? ANSWER: There was a time when most therapists would not work with a child unless they also worked with the family. Sometimes I felt that they did this because they really […]


How Did You Decide to Work with Children

ASK VIOLET How did you end up working with children and how did you know, or did you, that this was your career direction? I receive many variations of this question quite often so I thought it might be time to answer it by sharing my journey. I imagine that many of you wonder if […]


Grounding After

ASK VIOLET Question: How do you ground children after they have been having a really good time, or perhaps a particularly emotional time? This is very important. I feel that children must make closure since have they to go out and be in the world after a session. Here are several methods that have worked […]



ASK VIOLET 1. What kind of expectations should we have in our work with the child? I have a slogan that I often repeat to folks that were in my training programs: EXPECTATIONS BREED FAILURE This does not mean that I don’t have goals and plans to achieve those goals, but when I am with […]

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The Full Nest: Working with Adolescents

The first article of this series, “Just for Now: Virtual Use of the Oaklander Model in a Time of Crisis,” discussed employing it with children and families in the context of social distancing and the unprecedented global impact of COVID-19. As a child therapist who uses the Violet Oaklander Model of Gestalt therapy with children, […]


August 8, 2022

Just for Now: Virtual Use of the Oaklander Model in a Time of Crisis

We are all too aware that we find ourselves in an unprecedented global crisis due to COVID-19. As a child therapist who uses the Violet Oaklander Model of Gestalt Therapy with Children, I wish both to gather and to share my thoughts about employing it with children and families in this particular time of social […]


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